It doesn’t matter whether you feel like confronting him, venting your feelings, sharing something, trying to bring him closer- pause. Give yourself the gift of this space and time apart from each other. Your understandably negative feelings of fear and anger over a man’s distance need time to be calmed and worked out in private– away from him. Take time to gather your thoughts, marshall your inner strength and get back to your emotional center. When you sense that he’s withdrawing from you (or worse, you get dumped), I want you to stop everything. Sometimes what to do when he pulls away is more about what NOT to do than anything else. Here’s my 3 step process for what to do when you feel like your man has pulled away: 1. If things happen to be going really well between you (YAY!), read anyway, since this is also a plan for the next time he pulls away from you (because it WILL happen, and no, that doesn’t mean things are completely doomed between you). The good news is that if you handle a man’s distance the right way when he pulls away, your behavior can actually make your relationship stronger in the long run. This feeling of rejection is usually worse if you have a committed relationship or marriage- because when a man pulls away, he often takes your feeling of security in the relationship with him. It’s completely normal to feel afraid, weak and even angry at a man who has withdrawn from you.
The worst part about it is that if you aren’t actually broken up, your emotions about what he’s doing can actually sabotage the relationship you’re trying to save.Īnd those emotions can get so intense they cloud your better judgement. He may have completely ended your relationship or you might just sense that things aren’t the same as they were before.Įither way, I know how terrible and scary it feels when a man pulls away and you fear losing him forever. One of the hardest things to do in relationship-skills land is deciding what to do when he pulls away from you.
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